My last few posts have been about stressful conversations with a significant other, where ‘suck it up and stay put,’ can seem like the only option
How to escape them?
Can you avoid them?
Is it ever the right time to address the pattern?
In a previous post, I shared “Deer-in-the-Headlights – A Poem About Overwhelm” and promised you, among other things, a way to escape futile conversations with a “Get out of Jail, Free” card. True to my word, at the bottom of today’s post, you’ll find an instantaneously downloadable “Get out of Jail, Free” card you can … Read more
I just did a relationship faux pas, but… I don’t know what I said or did.
It doesn’t look like it’s okay to ask, so I… can’t really think straight right now, let alone recall what just happened and make sense of it.
This is a bit jarring, actually, because I actually thought everything was okay, so I’m alarmed to find we’re not okay… or I’m not okay…
and apparently, I’m on my own here. Alone in my alarm…
This post outlines why I have such a passion for supporting men in tech. It’s not anger or “wanting to fix them.” It’s compassion at how much MORE LIMITING the stereotypical male emotional palette can be on guys who aren’t jocks (for whom idealized masculinity isn’t working out, either.) It’s my story of female emotional … Read more
As a support-person to smart, sensitive men, many of whom “just want someone to love,” I’ve had multiple clients who want my help sussing out whether they can stay someone’s secret admirer indefinitely. They feared that revelation might be the end of them –or at least of their self-respect. “Better to stay a secret admirer, … Read more
Others’ happiness “shouldn’t” deprive you of yours… but darned if it doesn’t remind you of what’s missing! At times it’s impossible not to be envious, jealous, or sad at a reminder of what you’ve lost. “What happened?” you reason… Maybe you were doing okay before, suddenly, tears sprang up at the sight of some ad … Read more
A brilliant man sets out to hunt Cupid with the dark intent to never lose his mind (and end up alone) again.
You and I both know that V-day is just a bunch of hot air. Overpackaged, environment-be-damned, chocolate-scented air. Not an actual antidote to despair. When I read in ADBUSTERS that we buy more stuff when stressed-out, tired, and made to feel alone, it made sense of all the algorithms. Of commercials cutting in exactly at … Read more
Are you reading this with someone else in mind?
(You know how he
responds to advice.)