Rational Hearts

For men of science who want better chemistry.

You love the women in your life.

You want them to be happy.


But when they talk...

so many
variables

It can overwhelm.

Even if you

  • troubleshoot complex problems professionally,
  • studied systems thinking,
  • and meditate regularly…

Any ‘right’ responses might
feel lost in the blur.

So you’re alone.
She can’t reach you
or ‘get’ what it’s like for you.

It can be especially frustrating if
you’re usually quick to ‘get’ other stuff.

It sucks.

But it doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you.

A man of science who wants better chemistry

If half (or more) of these apply...

You avoid
party banter.

You prefer to do
your own research.

You figure things out
on your own.

You think
about ethics.

You don't "wear rose-colored glasses."

Your interests aren't
at all mainstream.

i've got good news for you.

HI, I'M BREE.

I’m a tri-national, autodidactic polymath with a Dutch degree in Applied Laboratory Science.

I was recruited internationally to work at Fred Hutchinson and Harvard’s Dana-Farber Cancer Institutes; my thesis work was published in a peer-reviewed journal in my 20’s… but I was a nervous wreck.

I personally have a hard time trusting the benevolence of a facilitator who promises (or requires) calm, instead of scientific self-observation of first-hand experience. I find behavioral and imagination-based approaches upsetting. I had huge issues with both psychoanalysis and woo-woo stuff. Shit creek, shittier paddles.

But then…! I gladly left labwork behind forever when I learned a far more invigorating way to make discoveries and make a difference to humanity: detailed scientific inquiry into subjective experience!

Within weeks, this work had freed me from so much anxiety that people hardly recognized me. I felt like the best version of myself, capable of living my values like never before. 

To test my mettle and not just turn around to evangelize “this anti-therapy is the best thing since sliced bread” (even though it totally is), I instead purposefully took on far more challenging work and relationships that would challenge and build my newfound confidence in who I truly am.

the world needs more scientists
with E.Q.s that match our I.Q.s

You can stay a scientist and just apply increased emotional intelligence to your life.
 

Me, I’ve enjoyed meaning and success as a

  • graveyard shift Busdriver consistently commended for disarming scary passengers with tremendous love and respect,
  • mom-in-training Preschool Teacher able to sincerely and easily unplug power struggles with tremendous love and respect,
  • spouse in a marriage strong enough to choose multiple foster teens over all other parenthood options out of, you guessed it: tremendous love and respect.

I’ve proven that I’m not just a fanatic about the approach that turned me from CPTSD victim to empowered change-maker. I’m an advocate for people like you and me, who aren’t yet free.

great minds think alike

        If you, like me,

  • value skepticism as a truth-finding skill,
  • refuse to overridde or suspend critical thinking capacity,
  • recognize scientific rigor as an asset to leverage, not ignore
  • refuse to be manipulated or put under a microscope, 
  • want better chemistry with other people, starting with sudden ease at being true to yourself?

        Then I want to meet you!

        No further reading necessary!

I'd love to show you how I help my high-end clients
so you can do it yourself, at your own pace.

I'd help you experience
  • How to hold pain without pain.
  • How to melt heartache away.
  • How to measurably improve your quality of life, yourself.

You make perfect sense. It just takes sorting out.

Rational Hearts diy plan
  • Just three easy payments of $93 gets you:
  • My undivided attention on 3 one-on-one Zooms.
  • Immediate results you can build on indefinitely.
  • A bespoke, personalized, realistic plan for success.
  • Worksheets you can use with anyone.
  • Instant access to a vast how-to wiki.
But first, a FREE virtual coffee.
No hard sales. No pressure.
BEWARE: button links to a bright white page.
accepting
new mentees

Or here’s my 5-pager on

why smarts make it hard to connect from the heart

Pastimes: meaningful moments with my spouse,
singing/dancing/talking with friends,
laughing out loud at Discworld novels.