For men of science who want better chemistry.
You love the women in your life.
You want them to be happy.
so many
It can overwhelm.
Even if you
- troubleshoot complex problems professionally,
- studied systems thinking,
- and meditate regularly…
Any ‘right’ responses might
feel lost in the blur.
So you’re alone.
They can’t reach you
or ‘get’ what it’s like for you.
It can be especially disappointing if
you’re usually quick to ‘get’ other stuff.
But it doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you.
If half (or more) of these apply...
You avoid
party banter.
You prefer to do
your own research.
You figure things out
on your own.
You think
about ethics.
You don't "wear rose-colored glasses."
Your interests aren't
at all mainstream.
i've got good news for you.
HI, I'M BREE.
I’m a tri-national, autodidactic polymath with a Dutch degree in Applied Laboratory Science.
I personally have a hard time trusting the benevolence of a facilitator who promises (or requires) calm, instead of scientific self-observation of first-hand experience. Behavioral or imagination-based approaches left me cold and lonely.
I used to work at Harvard and Fred Hutch, and my thesis work was published in a peer-reviewed journal in my 20’s, but I was a nervous wreck.
When I left the lab, I learned of a far more invigorating way to make discoveries and make a difference: detailed scientific inquiry into subjective experience.
Within a few months, this work freed me to truly enjoy an exciting and eclectic variety of jobs and relationships:
- preschool teacher who laughs sincerely and easily unplugs power struggles,
- graveyard shift busdriver consistently commended for disarming scary passengers with love,
- part of a marriage strong enough to choose multiple foster teens over other parenthood options…
The approach that served me, and which I now offer here, is particularly well-suited to fellow scientists who, like me,
- value skepticism as a truth-finding skill,
- refuse to overridde or suspend critical thinking capacity,
- recognize scientific rigor as an asset to leverage, not ignore…
but refuse to be manipulated or put under anyone else’s microscope.
Let me share how smarts might make it hard to connect from the heart!
Pastimes: meaningful moments with my spouse,
singing/dancing/talking with friends,
laughing out loud at Discworld novels.