For men of science who want better chemistry.

You love the women in your life.

You want them to be happy.


But when they talk...

so many
variables

It can overwhelm.

Even if you

  • troubleshoot complex problems professionally,
  • studied systems thinking,
  • and meditate regularly…

Any ‘right’ responses might
feel lost in the blur.

So you’re alone.
She can’t reach you
or ‘get’ what it’s like for you.

It can be especially frustrating if
you’re usually quick to ‘get’ other stuff.

But it doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you.

A man of science who wants better chemistry

If half (or more) of these apply...

You avoid
party banter.

You prefer to do
your own research.

You figure things out
on your own.

You think
about ethics.

You don't "wear rose-colored glasses."

Your interests aren't
at all mainstream.

i've got good news for you.

HI, I'M BREE.

I’m a tri-national, autodidactic polymath with a Dutch degree in Applied Laboratory Science.

I was recruited internationally to work at Fred Hutchinson and Harvard’s Dana-Farber Cancer Institutes; my thesis work was published in a peer-reviewed journal in my 20’s… but I was a nervous wreck.

I personally have a hard time trusting the benevolence of a facilitator who promises (or requires) calm, instead of scientific self-observation of first-hand experience. I find behavioral and imagination-based approaches upsetting. I had huge issues with both psychoanalysis and woo-woo stuff. Shit creek, shittier paddles.

But then…! I gladly left labwork behind forever when I learned a far more invigorating way to make discoveries and make a difference to humanity: detailed scientific inquiry into subjective experience!

Within weeks, this work had freed me from so much anxiety that people hardly recognized me. I felt like the best version of myself, capable of living my values like never before. 

To test my mettle and not just turn around to evangelize “this anti-therapy is the best thing since sliced bread” (even though it totally is), I instead purposefully took on far more challenging work and relationships: with confidence in who I truly am, I became free.

I only turned around and offered it to others 20 years later because the world needs more scientists with EQs that match our IQs!

You can stay rational
and trust your heart

        If you, like me,

  • value skepticism as a truth-finding skill,
  • refuse to overridde or suspend critical thinking capacity,
  • recognize scientific rigor as an asset to leverage, not ignore
  • refuse to be manipulated or put under a microscope, 
  • want better chemistry with other people, starting with sudden ease at being true to yourself?

        Then I want to meet you!

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why smarts make it hard to connect from the heart

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    Briana Jacoba, for men of science who want better chemistry

    Pastimes: meaningful moments with my spouse,
    singing/dancing/talking with friends,
    laughing out loud at Discworld novels.