For smart guys who want more meaningful connections.
Skip the small-talk.
Side-step social status.
The world needs you.
social calculus
The inter-personal chemistry of a so-called “simple” exchange between two people is actually mind-boggling.
How to discern signal/noise, let alone respond in real time? Especially when your own thoughts and reactions factor in, or distract?
Even with a meditation practice, a degree in systems thinking, and experience troubleshooting complex problems, your neurology is affected by that of people around you.
You won’t pay a so-called expert to just blame your parents and analyze your dreams (or cards, or stars or whatever) looking for trauma.
You’re not about to hire a coach to pep you up and let you down, or tell you to “visualize success.”
What’s the point, anyway?
“Good advice” hasn’t really worked for you…
(Actually, common-sense advice usually doesn’t even seem to apply to you for some reason. Maybe ‘cause you’re pretty uncommon… which is good. But also kinda sucks, since you’d like to believe something will work out for you…)
I get it.
You're smart.
You "believe it when you see it."
No nagging/coaxing/manipulation.
You prefer scientific methodology: observe, hypothesize, and test iteratively.
You save face
by figuring things out on your own.
You’re agnostic, iconoclastic, or just
not big on authority figures.
You have trouble striking up
mutually engaging conversations.
You’re technically inclined, understated
…and misunderstood.
Remember GOOD conversation?
When someone completely tracks:
- She gets your jokes.
- She sees your point.
- She knows what you mean.
She helps you finish sentences
without
putting words in your mouth.
When someone you respect
delights in you…
Your brain works better.
Fresh perspectives arise naturally.
Better ideas occur to you unbidden.
Now that’s good conversation!
Want more GOOD conversations?
Me, too!
Hi. I'm Bree.
I’m a rogue scientist focusing on what is right & good –but misunderstood– in the modern male mind. I articulate, validate, and reflect the best in men back to them.
Men who assume that “talking” means being “shamed/blamed/fixed” need someone safe to turn to, who gets how smarts become wisdom.
Let me help you hear you!
This book would not have happened without you.
I've had many past lives, but you...
You're from the future.
With most people, I’m ready for a nap after about 10 minutes of conversation.
But an hour with you goes by so fast I don’t even notice time passing.
You’re funny, smart and wise, and so easy to talk to that I’m energized and not exhausted,
even when we talk about my least favourite topic: me!
Introvert
‘I don’t care! This is hopeless! Forget it!’
Well, it was a Hail Mary pass, but
this has been the HUGEST turn-around!
retired
Massage Therapist
– I’m introverted, shy, and sometimes shut down, and she can be very outgoing and outspoken –
and
she consistently meets our differences by communicating transparently about her own experience, inviting me to give her feedback and adapting to it, and actively and compassionately seeking to understand my experience.
Our meetings have provided me a rare opportunity to experimentally speak my full truth, which has been valuable practice that I have seen enrich my other relationships. It’s been a pleasure to learn and grow with her.
I now work with the firm of my choice, and I know it is the right fit. Pragmatically speaking I’m making a healthy salary. Plus I’m ecstatic to work with a team of people who share many of my visions and work diligently to make them real.
We did this together, Bree.
Thanks for standing by me all the while and encouraging me through every step.
I’m often afraid of overwhelming people.
What I appreciate about you, Bree, is that you are “big enough.”
I feel like I can be met by you.
You can meet me.
I can be as big, or as much, of “me” as I NEED to be, and you can meet me.
I don’t have to be nervous about “OMG, I have to say only 10% of who I am” for fear of overwhelming you.
There is a better way to sustain nourishing relationships.
Systematically.
With way less agonizing.
Work with me and we’ll find your way together.
Let’s talk!
'Normal' is overrated.
Conflict-avoidant...
small-talk-averse...
You’re absolutely not alone in thinking
“What the heck!
What did I miss!?
When was I supposed to learn this stuff?”
You’re actually in great company.
How It Works
We hop on a Zoom call.
We have a nourishing conversation,
not the small-talk you avoid like the plague.
You see how it really is possible to enjoy connecting without being labeled or misunderstood. How it really is possible to forge a caring connection with a woman who’s not your girlfriend. Or your sister.
I treat you like the adult you are, relating to you in the way you need to be related to.
No diagnoses or prescriptions.
No teaching or preaching.
No ridicule or grotesque scenes.
Just genuine, real, authentic connection – free of the superficiality of social situations, the weight of work/networking, or the distracting dangers of dinner-and-dancing.
Within the controlled environment of our Zoom room, you can have the insights and ahas that first require complaining, honestly and freely, and being truly understood.
You can actually gain the requisite skills for the relationship you’ve always wanted.
And more.
Contact
I love sincere criticism, doubts, concerns, hesitancy, questions, and plain-spoken feedback.
Hold the sugar!
If you’re thinking:
‘That’s all good and well, but she doesn’t know me. She can’t possibly get me,’
I commend your caution!
Judge for yourself:. Just book a quick, painless