For men of science who want better chemistry.
You love the women in your life.
You want them to be happy.
so many
It can overwhelm.
Even if you
- troubleshoot complex problems professionally,
- studied systems thinking,
- and meditate regularly…
Any ‘right’ responses might
feel lost in the blur.
So you’re alone.
They can’t reach you
or ‘get’ what it’s like for you.
It can be especially disappointing if
you’re usually quick to ‘get’ other stuff.
But it doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you.
If half (or more) of these apply...
You avoid
party banter.
You prefer to do
your own research.
You figure things out
on your own.
You think
about ethics.
You don't "wear rose-colored glasses."
Your interests aren't
at all mainstream.
i've got good news for you.
HI, I'M BREE.
I’m a tri-national, polymath autodidact with a Dutch degree in Applied Laboratory Science.
I personally have a hard time trusting the benevolence of a facilitator who promises (or requires) calm, instead of scientific self-observation of first-hand experience. Behavioral or imagination-based approaches left me cold and lonely.
I used to work at Harvard and Fred Hutch, and my thesis work was published in a peer-reviewed journal in my 20’s, but but I was a nervous wreck.
When I left the lab, a far more invigorating discovery crossed my path: the ability to do scientific inquiry into subjective experience.
Using that approach for just a few months freed me to truly enjoy an exciting and eclectic variety of jobs and relationships:
- preschool teacher who laughs sincerely and easily while unplugging power struggles,
- graveyard shift busdriver who consistently disarmed the scariest passengers with love,
- spouse in a marriage strong enough to choose foster kids over other options…
The approach that served me, and which I now offer here, is particularly well-suited to fellow scientists who, like me,
- value skepticism as a truth-finding skill,
- refuse to overridde or suspend critical thinking capacity,
- recognize scientific rigor as an asset to leverage, not ignore…
but refuse to be manipulated or put under anyone else’s microscope.
do smarts affect the art of connecting from the heart?
