What to Give the Guy Who Knows Everything?
When we wish smart guys well, it’s easy to worry the good things won’t come to him… This post is about what to do with worrisome wishes, and why.
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Knowledge Lowers Confidence
Self-confidence (confidence in what you are and are not) requires hard-won wisdom. Not knowledge. Knowledge is great, but only certain parts of us hold parts of our knowledge, e.g. the parts of you that were able to sit up in class and pay attention know alcohol makes humans stupid. Other parts, like the ones that … Read more
Odd Odds for the Odd Man Out
If your IQ sets you apart by making you waaaaay less interested in mundane topics than most folks, that can be tremendously isolating. Or if the intensity with which you engage outshines/outpaces/outdoes that of others, that can be isolating, too… But probably the most isolating side-effect of big brainz is your potential. Living with more … Read more
Being a Man is Demanding
As a boy, you had your work cut out for you. You knew what to aspire to in becoming a man. Then suddenly you’re in a relationship with a woman, and she wants something completely different! Grade Expectations What society expects you to be as a man (the go-getter, the competent, the problem-solver… all this … Read more
I Will Follow You…
Ever danced with a partner who wanted to lead, even though that was your job? It doesn’t work. It’s like having a conversation with someone who thinks you need to be nagged, when you’re already hard enough on yourself, by yourself! Most guys shut down or seclude in this situation. And women don’t get it, … Read more
