FAQ
3 FREE CALLS?
By ‘Calls’ I mean Zoom meetings you can opt to
- speak or stay muted and type
- appear on video or leave it off
- record or leave un-recorded
(I actually request that you record it to your device, on your end, through Zoom’s record feature. I won’t record without your consent.)
Each call is transparently structured — specifically to avoid the all-or-nothing, high-stakes, high-pressure feeling that I’ve been given in yucky first meetings that left me, as the potential client, feeling icked-out and worse than before.
Don’t you just hate it when that happens?
$0?
Yep. No fee.
These are NOT sessions. They’re pretty short.
We don’t do any work; we’re just sussing out what working together would look like.
How exactly does the Introduction Call go?
Voice and video are optional because some folx are really, really shy/burned out/averse to eye-contact. I do expect you to be in a private setting, ready to focus.
Before the Introduction Call:
The 5-part questionnaire sent in advance is optional, to provide me with any context you’d like me to have in advance. I won’t bring up money, unless you ask about it there.
You don’t even have the option to pay a dime until during/after Orientation.
The Introduction Call starts as just 20 minutes:
This is your chance to describe a recurring experience you strongly dislike, in as much or as little detail as you are willing to. The whole point is for you to be heard and understood.
In the 20th minute:
I’ll check if it’s okay that I go quiet for 60 seconds and invite you to do the same. We do that to offer you space and privacy to assess for yourself whether you feel safe and curious enough to even want to explore possible futures.
In the 10 minutes we have left:
We could look at how much relief I might be able to guarantee you on the very short term.
Curiosity does not obligate follow-through.
You have the option to schedule a FREE Slept-On-It Call.
After the Introduction Call:
There’s another short Questionnaire, and you can come up with more questions to address in the Slept-On-It Call.
What's the Slept-On-It Call like?
Again: voice and video are optional because some folx are really, really shy/burned out/averse to eye-contact.
I won’t be mad if you nix everything we discuss on this call – it’s a Q&A.
Before the Slept-On-It Call:
You’ll have had a chance to explore the Step 2 Mentoring Agreement and Step 3 Client Agreement.
On the Slept-On-It Call:
Now, with no pressure to sign either, you can ask questions or suggest changes.
It’s helpful to establish a baseline pain level in this call, before we affect big change. I’ll help you make a rough measure of the pain Step 2 would help you address. There are a few ways to do this, one might be using a pretend “scale of 1-10, where 1 would mean “no pain beyond appetite and so forth,” and 10 would mean “kill me now.””
Obviously, we’re looking to improve your wellness and lower your pain.
At the end of the Slept-On-It Call:
If you’re interested in moving forward with me, we could co-design what a good timeline for Step 2 could look like for you, specifically. Standard would be that we just schedule the
- schedule the Taste-Test as soon as you pay,
- do the Detailed DIY Planning Call the following week,
- pencil in weekly Mentoring Calls for 10 weeks, and
- add Quality Control Call #1 in around the 4th Mentoring Call and
- tack on Quality Control Call #2 where the 11th Mentoring Call would have fallen.
If you’re already interested in Step 3, that can be discussed, too.
After the Slept-On-It Call:
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What's Orientation?
Although this is the last free Q&A call you get for 6 months, questions remain welcome.
Before Orientation:
You’ll have had a chance to explore the Step 2 Mentoring Agreement and Step 3 Client Agreement.
During Orientation:
Now, with no pressure to sign either, you can ask questions or suggest changes.
It’s helpful to establish a baseline pain level in this call, before we affect big change. I’ll help you make a rough measure of the pain Step 2 would help you address. There are a few ways to do this, one might be using a pretend “scale of 1-10, where 1 would mean “no pain beyond appetite and so forth,” and 10 would mean “kill me now.””
Obviously, we’re looking to improve your wellness and lower your pain.
At the end of Orientation:
If you’re interested in moving forward with me, we could co-design what a good timeline for Step 2 could look like for you, specifically. Standard would be that we just schedule the
- schedule the Taste-Test as soon as you pay,
- do the Detailed DIY Planning Call the following week,
- pencil in weekly Mentoring Calls for 10 weeks, and
- add Quality Control Call #1 in around the 4th Mentoring Call and
- tack on Quality Control Call #2 where the 11th Mentoring Call would have fallen.
If you’re already interested in Step 3, that can be discussed, too.
After Orientation:
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When would money enter into it?
The first installment isn’t due until, during Orientation, you decide to book your first session. It takes money to get any sessions on the calendar.
We will have looked at budget, schedule, learning style, etc. during the 3 free appointments, so scheduling and paying typically feels comfortably courageous.
How much?
If you’re looking for more info on the sliding scale of the DISMANTLE A MOOD-BOMB package, it’s the 3 tiers of the Green Bottle Method, which correspond to these 3 pricepoints:
TIER 1: Twelve equal installments of $225
TIER 2: Twelve equal installments of $100
TIER 3: Twelve equal installments of $ 40.
Why?
For more on why, please read wortsandcunning.com/blog/sliding-scale
What if I want to politely decline?
Not polite? No problem! I respect unexplained dissent; sometimes it’s the only kind available to a body exhausted from looking for safety and comfort.
In order of increasing effort:
- You can simply leave at any time,
(e.g. after the first 20 minutes, before/during/after the silence.)
(I will likely just assume the call dropped.) - You can cancel or no-show without saying why
(I will remind you how to reschedule, but only once or twice, before telling you
“I’m assuming you’re MIA or uninterested, no hurt feelings. I hope you’re okay. You have my newsletter. Let me know if you ever want to look into it again, or have my help finding an alternative.”) - You can make it clear in an email
(very clear, much appreciated!) - You can make it clear in a questionnaire
(very clear, much appreciated!) - You can decline out loud at any time,
(e.g. when I ask you whether you’re interested in scheduling a next call.)
(very clear, much appreciated!)
Benefits of effort:
I really want a no-wrong-door policy: if you’re sensing “it’s not a fit,” I’d feel best knowing you found a better fit among my colleagues or other resources as soon as possible.
I’m considering starting a support group specifically for men finding each other stuff that fits each unique seeker’s budget, situation, personality, etc.
