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Step 1

2 Free calls
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  • I want to hear about your situation.

    You might be afraid you're a burden, scary, or "a bad man," but I promise you: I get how pain and the search for relief motivates many decisions.

    I'm not out to control or try to save you.

    I'm here to just be 'in it' with you, with care, and get your point of view from that place. There's room for us to build trust. I've been burned, too... I get it.
I want to meet you!
You're protected by a comprehensive privacy policy.
No faith/hope required.
No hard sales. No pressure.

Is Step 1 just about selling
Steps 2 and 3?

Well, I sure hope it’s not about gossipping!
(Seriously: I don’t take requests!)

Step 1 consists of more than one call — and each call is transparently structured — specifically to avoid the all-or-nothing, high-stakes, high-pressure feeling that I’ve been given in yucky first meetings that left me, as the potential client, feeling icked-out and worse than before.

Let’s not do that!




I don't talk to the women in your life.

I only care about your experience.

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Step 1 is all about making sure
Step 2 is actually a good fit for you before you invest a dime.

And whether we feel led to work together right now, or not, there are other people and resources I would be happy to introduce you to at any point, free of charge!

In other words: zero sales pressure. I respect how tender this is for anyone bringing it to me.

Zero Sales Pressure?
Really?

Really.

I’m actually curious, in a welcoming way, what it’s like to be you when a mood-bomb goes off.

(Yours, or someone else’s.)

What all do you get for free?

FREE   Step 0 PDF: Why Smarts Make It Hard to Connect from the Heart

FREE   Booking an Introduction Call gets you

  • Detailed confirmation email,
  • Easy rescheduling option,
  • Optional questionnaire if it’ll make you more comfortable.

FREE   Introduction Call: details below.
             (voice/video optional)

FREE   Slept-On-It Call: 
             (voice/video optional)

  • Explore the Agreement for Step 2 — no pressure to sign it.
  • Co-design what Step 2 could look like for you.
  • Option to flex the pace, structure, and timeline of Step 2, and explore price.

How exactly does the Introduction Call go?

Voice and video are optional because some folx are really, really shy/burned out/averse to eye-contact. I do expect you to be in a private setting, ready to focus.

Beforehand:

Questionnaire sent in advance is optional, to provide me with context you’d like me to have in advance.

Sliding-scale calculator only applies to Step 3. Step 2 is a steal! I don’t give you an option to pay for anything until the end of the Slept-On-It Call.

First, we meet for 20 minutes.

This is your chance to describe a recurring experience you strongly dislike, in as much or as little detail as you are willing to. The whole point is for you to be heard and understood.

In the 20th minute:

I’ll check if it’s okay that I go quiet for 60 seconds and invite you to do the same. We do that to offer you space and privacy to assess for yourself whether you feel safe and curious enough to even want to explore possible futures.

In the 10 minutes we have left:

We could look at how much relief I might be able to guarantee you on the very short term.
Curiosity does not obligate follow-through.
You have the option to schedule a FREE Slept-On-It Call.

Afterward:

You can preview the Mentee Agreement for Step 2 and come up with more questions on your own — I’m happy to address them in the Slept-On-It Call.

No instant purchases.
I want you to sleep on it.

Talking to me is very safe for your wallet, and for you.

Information-gathering doesn’t obligate you to follow through on anything!

I’m happy to refer you to free and/or relevant resources.

What’s the Slept-On-It Call like?

Voice and video are optional because some folx are really, really shy/burned out/averse to eye-contact.

You don’t have to follow through with any agreements we discuss on this call – it’s a Q&A.

Beforehand:

You’ll have had a chance to explore the Step 2 Mentoring Agreement and Step 3 Client Agreement.

On this call

Now, with no pressure to sign either, you can ask questions or suggest changes.

It’s helpful to establish a baseline pain level in this call, before we affect big change. I’ll help you make a rough measure of the pain Step 2 would help you address. There are a few ways to do this, one might be using a pretend “scale of 1-10, where 1 would mean “no pain beyond appetite and so forth,” and 10 would mean “kill me now.””

Obviously, we’re looking to improve your wellness and lower your pain.

At the end of this call:

If you’re interested in moving forward with me, we could co-design what a good timeline for Step 2 could look like for you, specifically. Standard would be that we just schedule the

  • schedule the Taste-Test as soon as you pay,
  • do the Detailed DIY Planning Call the following week,
  • pencil in weekly Mentoring Calls for 10 weeks, and
  • add Quality Control Call #1 in around the 4th Mentoring Call and
  • tack on Quality Control Call #2 where the 11th Mentoring Call would have fallen.

If you’re already interested in Step 3, that can be discussed, too.

What if it’s not a fit?

Worst case scenario, you’re too shy to tell me why you cancel the Slept-On-It Call. I respect dissent, so, no questions asked, I would kindly remind you you’re always welcome to inquire again.

OR

We use the Slept-On-It Call to help you find a better fit among my colleagues and other resources, and get you other support ASAP.

When would money enter into it?

The first installment isn’t due until we book the Taste-Test (Step 2).

First, your main questions are addressed in Step 1’s Slept-On-It Call. This can include looking at budget, schedule, learning style, etc. so your next step feels comfortably courageous.

Step 2 is generally 3 small monthly installments of $116. A sliding scale is available for Step 3, but Step 2 is a steal as it is at $350 total.

Note:
You can walk away from the Taste-Test with a refund if it’s not for you.

Can you get your money back?

Step 1 doesn’t involve any money.

Step 2: If the Taste-Test proves not to be great for you, you can walk away with a refund.

Step 3 is entirely under a 100% satisfaction, money-back guarantee.

Wanna just start with the
FREE PDF?

Hesitation is Healthy

If you’re on the fence for any of the following reasons, JUST DON’T DO IT.

That’s right.

I’m warning you now:

if any of the following are an issue,
it isn’t gonna work out.

1. Technology & -skills

If you don’t have a device with both Zoom and a USB port, or are not comfortable enough with comupters to, for example, navigate this in-browser app…

…bummer.

That’s a separate issue/learning curve I can’t help you with.

2. Okay with these media

If you don’t trust Zoom, Chrome, Gmail, and text, then my routine means of communication won’t work for you.

(I don’t need to know any secrets or your past, so you can opt to mute yourself and/or go off-camera anytime.)

I honor your privacy, and these tools have limitations.

3. I won’t ‘save’ you.

I don’t call 9-1-1.
I’m not on-call.
I’m not available for free support, now or later on.

My harm-reduction attitude flies in the face of 12-step, religious, and diagnostic models, so I’ve been able to help people make life more worth living, but I’m not a mandated reporter, nor am I trained to think in terms of disease, or offer medical or behavioral health advice.

Step 3 (optional) has two additional conditions.

I don’t manipulate sales:

I’m not going to convince you or change your comfort-level with these pre-requisites.

They’re guarantee-nixing pre-requisites.

This is your heads-up.

That was a lot of reading.
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I AM NOT A THERAPIST.

Nowadays, Psychologists, Psychiatrists
and Social Workers
often have waitlists.

Millions of people benefit from their help, and I support that.

FYI, if you have the financial means, you have the option to to pay them out-of-pocket, rather than submit to most insurances' prerequisite of a diagnosis, or limits on session length/frequency.

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Why bother meeting?

You don’t have to tell me your whole life story, disclose any secrets, or tell me the worst thing about yourself. This is not a trust fall.

This is just us noticing whether enough shared understanding is already present between us to warrant a follow-up call to even begin to talk details.

At first, I’m just curious to get a sense of what results you’re looking for, and where you’re at right now.

Makes sense?

Zero sales pressure.

Wow! You almost made it to the
free PDF at the bottom!

No need to get ‘too excited.’

You shouldn’t have to ‘psych yourself up’ or be in any particular mindset to meet me.

You hate making promises you can’t keep…

So don’t.
Don’t promise anything.

Say it with me now:

There’s NO NEED to try to be

  • ‘ready,’
  • hopeful, or
  • in a good mood

to meet me.

No need whatsoever.
I swear.

Many guys are exhausted. It’s no fun having to routinely use all the ‘pep’ you can muster just to function.

Wear clothes.

But otherwise, please let yourself just… be.

I GET IT.

What if you’re exhausted because you’re constantly tiptoeing around live mood-bombs?

Constantly tiptoeing around live mood-bombs is exhausting. Unpredictable ups and downs can really cramp your style and make scheduling appointments into a big ordeal.

Please don’t cause the exact isolation you’re trying to prevent: it’s hard to schedule ANY activity if you’re afraid you have to ‘perform’ to keep it.

Low confidence can obscure high motivation.

It can be hard to book a call if you think it requires believing relief is possible. (It doesn’t.)

If you’re an “I have to see it to believe it” kind of guy, that’s exactly who I work with.

And you still might not want to make an appointment. Meet me, a stranger. I get it!

Maybe for now, all you want is to get to know me over time, through my videos and my blog.

That’s fine. I trust that, when the time is right, you’ll know.

It can be hard to imagine hiring ANYONE.

If you’re really, really hopeless and exhausted, you might wish I could simply read your mind… I can’t.

But I can send you a few questions in advance to prompt the kind of sharing that helps us know quickly whether

a) you’re in the right place already, or

b) I might have the honor of helping you get there.

Come, come however you are.

My talent is in seeing your sheer brilliance — even if you call yourself lost or ‘stupid.’

I have a way of witnessing loneliness without making people lonelier.

Overview

Step 0
PDF

Step 1 
2 FREE calls to check it’s a fit.

Step 2
Learn how to dismantle a Mood-Bomb,
starting with a Taste-Test.

Step 3
Optional enhancement to Step 2.

When is the best time to inquire about Step 3?

If you’re curious about Step 3 to begin with, you can bring it up anytime. I see Step 3 as an enhancement — an alternate ending to Step 2, but Step 2 stands tall on its own.

If you prefer, I’ll be ecstatic to use our free calls to explore Step 2 only!

I want to meet you!

Please subscribe, and then…
pick a time!

Step 0.
First things first.
Then
explore Step 2.

to even know what we’re talking about when you book

Step 1.
(Caution: leads to a bright white page for booking.)

We just met!
How about a welcome gift?

How ’bout just doing the simplest thing ever: email.

You’ll immediately get my take on why smarts can be so isolating.

Hit ‘Reply’ to ask me anything!

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