This is for people “trying to help” guys who don’t want ‘help.’ I think what confuses the frustrated ‘helper’ most, is some smart guys’ apparent disapproval or dismissiveness, lack of commitment, or sense of emotional independence. If hoping against hope for change in such behavior(s) is painful for you, and you can’t seem to get any traction, congratulations: you are properly empathizing with an isolated smart guy. Welcome to his
When we wish smart guys well, it’s easy to worry the good things won’t come to him… This post is about what to do with worrisome wishes, and why.
Self-confidence (confidence in what you are and are not) requires hard-won wisdom. Not knowledge. Knowledge is great, but only certain parts of us hold parts of our knowledge, e.g. the parts of you that were able to sit up in class and pay attention know alcohol makes humans stupid. Other parts, like the ones that tell you that you’ll only impress a girl by drinking in some “liquid courage,” got