for guys who’d rather talk tech than emotion,
but miss their girlfriend’s effervescent happiness.
This is the last post in a series on how frustrating it can be for cheerleader types wanting to ‘help’ a smart guy who doesn’t actually want help/feel helpable/believe that respectful, fun help is available. Even if you’re convinced that I’m a good (non-help-y word that better describes my services anyways) conversation partner for him, I understand how risky it can feel to recommend he talk to me. So just
If you have a smart guy in your life who won’t disclose much about feelings, or thinks he has that under control, thank you very much, it’s possible you’re too worried for his taste. But it’s equally possible you’re a total mind-reader, you know him better than he knows himself, and you are doing your darndest to teach him feelings vocabulary, or manners… to no avail. I get it! I
X and Y are interchangeable in the following sentence, and could be substituted with get invited to parties, make friends, network my way into a job, feel confident in an interview/annual review, meet the One, get laid, be confident on a date, etc. “I can’t do X because I don’t have Y, and I don’t have Y because first I need X!” It’s never a straightforward statement like that, because
