My opinion:
Therapy isn't nearly as fast as most people want and need it to be

If you’re happy to rake up traumatic memories with a therapist, there are certain therapy modalities (e.g. EMDR & SST) that have been proven to help in a record low number of sessions, relative to other forms of psychotherapy. (And some unproven stuff that claims to help in 1-5 sessions.)

While I’ve benefitted from it myself, certain kinds of therapy can be inefficient, ineffective, unpredictable, or frustratingly unsystematic. I’ve found the effectiveness of therapy sessions is impacted by random factors like mood, recent sleep, and health (mine or the therapist’s).

Then there’s “the luck of the draw” re: your therapist.

Beware of the ones who think they can help ‘anyone’ with ‘anything’ but have to call 9-1-1 when shit gets real.

Coaching isn't faster --than therapy or anything else-- if it doesn't work for you

Coaching might be the opposite of therapy in that it focuses on the future, not the past, but it simply can’t address anything half as deeply as I do, because…

Coaching puts a lot on you to do something about your circumstances and affect the world around you. That’s a very tall order when you’re down in the dumps, burned out, or critical of everything / everyone / yourself.

Even “Trauma-Informed Coaching” and SFBT can send the stigmatizing message “snap out of it and do something” through the subtle shaming effect of the common coaching question: “would you like to change that limiting belief?” Yuck!

In my opinion, coaching is, therefore, unnecessarily stressful for the client.

Even if one COULD “fake-it-til-you-make-it” and say “yes,” it wouldn’t be in integrity. Training a new alter-ego to slip into on dates (ick!) only makes one more paranoid, lonely, and disaster-prone.

And the coach is charging for this time-consuming trial-and-error process, just like therapists do for session-by-session therapy that meanders all over the place. (links to a 13,000-word post on why couples counseling doesn’t work for a statistically significant swath of men. It’s about a 70-minute read.)

**drugs + self-help only seem faster than therapy**

“Self-help” can be self-harm by another name, because Quality Control on internal bias towards your opinon of yourself… is tricky.

I’m all about empowerment, self-determination, and harm reduction (not stigmatization, hospitalization, or abstinance). And I have to admit… both hopelessness and foolhardy hope are eerily habit-forming.

Philosophically speaking: when one’s current perspective discovers a “truer” attitude that’s trying to emerge, it feels scary-good …for a moment.

But since every Big Aha that could actually help you, personally, breaks down into labor, it takes longer than the flash of bliss lasts, to follow through on your epiphany.

That can be frustrating, lonely, and make one chase the next epiphany-high. Meanwhile thinking: “I’m brilliant, but why doesn’t my life improve?”

Self-care Coaching can only do so much

“Self-care” doesn’t last… or do the trick… if you have issues with self-respect, self-trust, or self-control to begin with.

Even if you do all the things, it just covers band-aids with more band-aids that get torn off in an itchy rage when enough stress reminds one of the perma-pain underneath.

I Offer a Systematic, Efficient, Effective Alternative 30x Faster than Therapy or Coaching!

Although it sounds as impossible as doing your own open-heart surgery, there is an approach that actually does let you do very intricate work very consciously:

zero risk of brainwashing,
zero drugs,
zero status-differential.

Once your stress completely transforms for a moment, I guarantee it will level out to a weekly/monthly level half of what it’s been this past year… or your money back.

If you find that anywhere else, please! Let me know!

It's not therapy

I don’t diagnose or treat.
No need to tell me about the past.
I don’t think in terms of wellness vs. illness.

I just help my clients expand their emotional, intellectual, and social “range of movement” — without labeling your behaviors “maladaptive” or your thoughts “negative.”

And I can actually guarantee measurable results.

It's not coaching, coaxing, or coping

No threat of shame.
No “pain = gain” mind-games.
No extrinsic goals or To Do lists.

“Coping skills” without actual relief cause burnout.
Authenticity isn’t a fake-it-’til-you-make-it, coachable goal.
Unstilted, heartfelt communication can’t be learned through training.

Before these innate skills can unfurl, you might actually need to recalibrate yourself to yourself — to who you really are — so you can finally “just be yourself” …like people are always talking about.

not as sudden as psychedelics

…and more within your control than any drug: after the huge initial relief, the way you experience yourself every day changes on a profound yet subtle level.

Your repertoire of interpretations, responses, and perceived options expands in seemingly unrelated ways…

This effect slowly and steadily gains momentum, and in retrospect, 9 weeks into your integration, the shift is obvious.

Clients have said:

“I feel like I have been freed from a heavy burden that I carried for years though I had only limited awareness of it. It’s not so much that I am a different person now, but rather I am the same person without all the issues.”

How fast is this therapy alternative?

We can just do weekly sessions for 2-3 months, with separate Quality Assurance Calls that don’t cut into session time.

Or, really, all the sessions needed for a long-lasting shift fit back-to-back in 3 days, followed by an integration period much like what’s recommended after deep psychedelic experiences.

The fact that this work is so deep it’ll leave you sipinning (in a good way) for nine weeks shouldn’t count against its expediency, right?

Lasting Relief in 3 Days, Not 6 Months

An astonishingly rational, systematic approach to “getting rid of bad moods” that’s faster than therapy or coaching — perfect for data-driven, critical thinkers who have not found counseling, coaching, self-help, or meditation to be effective: it’s more thorough and faster than therapy and coaching combined.

My approach is systematic (rather than manipulative) and therefore, it’s more technically satisfying, thorough, and long-lasting. It’s even measurable to a degree that I can offer guarantees.

Harm reduction and behavioral change are natural consequences of FIRST experiencing a deep change to your actual, first-hand experience of anguish, hopelessness, or pain itself. You don’t have to quit anything or label moods “bad” to shift out of the inclination to sabotage or self-harm.

$ Dismantling a
mood bomb

I guarantee you'll see results
when most facilitators can't guarantee anything at all...
5 months faster
No weekly performance anxiety.
No keeping your hopes up/down.
Just tangible, nearly-instantaneous relief.
at the exact same price.
For comparable results, other facilitators require 5 months of weekly sessions or more. Even if they only charge $125 per session (usually 50 minutes), that's $2690 total, not counting the 2 weeks of "getting to know you" sessions you pay for before any real work begins.
How about guaranteed, lasting results,
2-5 months earlier?

30x faster than therapy? Really?

Here’s the math as to how it’s approximately 30x faster than therapy, and better than even trauma-informed coaching.

Rapid Results
(in 3 days, not 24 weekly sessions like a therapy trajectory!)

It only takes one day to use your technical skills to document the much more exact data that describes your particular flavor of anguish with more fidelity than people tend to do using vague, fluffy “feelings vocabulary.” And doing this can feel weirdly good and neutralize future upsets.
Second day, you literally “ease up” every dimension and transform formerly “bad feelings” beyond recognition, so you directly experience what you’ve been needing all along.
After that, it’s like a psychedelic awakening, without the psychedelics: 9 weeks of light-touch after-care smoothens out your integration in a nominal 10 minutes/day. Starting with a day of rest.

What I *don't* count when I say "it's faster than therapy":

Any therapist worth their salt will let you have 20 minutes alone with them to see if you ‘click’, so let’s not count the free intro conversation in the equation at all.
(Beware of the therapist who won’t meet you for 20 minutes for free, and just signs you up for a 2-hour, $250 “intake session” so they can ask you enough questions to draw your family tree before you get anything of any value or even see how they like to work!)
I offer 2 more free appointments than that. They’re for making sure you understand the money-back guarantee — something I’ve not yet seen any therapist offer, because their approaches are more iterative, meandering, and haphazard than mine.
The free appointments are not sessions, so I hope it makes sense to you that we don’t count those in this equation.

Here's the math for "30 times faster than therapy"

Under half a week of non-therapy with me
vs.
5-15 weekly RRT/EMDR therapy sessions
=
5-15 weeks divided by less than 0.5 weeks
=
results more than 10x (often 30x) sooner with me, and no trauma-retelling.

Even if a therapist knew my super-fast, story-free modality, insurance policies would make them do it in 55-minute chunks on a weekly cadence, and you’d want to say hello and goodbye each time, so it would take several months to get where I get you in 3 days.

Under half a week of non-therapy with me
vs.
25 weeks of therapy sessions
=
25 weeks divided by less than 0.5 weeks
=
results more than 50x faster than therapy.

Results more than 50x faster than therapy, just due to therapy’s insurance-dictated, standardized pace and format.
Taken altogether, that’s an average of

10x faster than therapy (RRT),
30x faster than therapy (EMDR), and
50x faster than therapy (d/t standardized format) +
(10+30+50)/3
= 90/3
= 30x faster than therapy.

…but if you’d prefer to take it one session at a time,
we can do it in 3 weeks of several short sessions a week,
or
spread them out as few and far between as you like (or need for your budget).
It’s faster than therapy: it’s not therapy!

In Summary: I offer something better than coaching, faster than therapy.

30 times faster than therapy, actually.
Sure, my approach requires a few weeks of interactive, app-supported after-care, but I should hope you’re being kind to yourself for 5 minutes/day, 5 days a week as it is, so that hardly counts.
It helps better, deeper, and faster than therapy or most alternatives to therapy.
And it has a money-back guarantee you’ll get measurable results. Significant relief. Real effects in your (love)life.

Step 2
Taste-test &
Detailed DIY Plan

$ 350 payment in installments / sliding scale available

This Step starts with a Taste-Test to prove that relief can arrive faster than we're taught or told. If for any reason, working with me is not your cup of tea, after all, you can back out and get your money back then and there.

The Taste-Test evidences why truly lasting relief takes about 8x more focused time, plus a few weeks of just noticing changes integrate into your life.

To that end, I will show you around to a vast online resource with all the necessary scripts, recordings, science, and background information. Yours to access, free of charge.

This Step includes me supporting your independent research and helping you reap the benefits of your own implementation in your day-to-day life.

On our second of 12 appointments, we collaboratively craft your completely bespoke, Detailed DIY Plan: a realistic route to lasting results that feels doable to you. You can execute your Plan independent of me or any facilitator, and involve anyone you want in your journey.

Fast Relief

No faith/hope required.

This is when we would pick one measurable life-improvement,
and outline how & how quickly you can get there.

You can, of course, stop at Step 2.

You can cheaply opt to go it alone, or involve a buddy/Peer-Support Specialist/etc. for human support and accountability beyond what I offer via my app.
The fastest route to lasting relief is to work directly with me: Step 3.

Step 3
Guaranteed Relief from Emotional Anguish in Days, not Months
(much faster than therapy)

$ 2700 payment in installments / sliding scale available

We rejigger your DIY Plan from Step 2 into one you and I do together from start to finish.

One of these extremes might appeal, or it could become something in-between:

Steady Pace:

Frequent 80-minute sessions.

OR

Weekend Intensive:

Get it done in 3 days flat!

You get nine weeks of hand-holding in either Step 2 or 3 to ensure smooth and thorough integration, warranting my money-back guarantee.

Fast, lasting relief

* I guarantee 100% satisfaction or your money back regarding significant improvement in your life satisfaction based on the specific metric we define together at Step 2.

No faith/hope required.

accepting
new clients

I’m a skeptic who caters to skeptics.

Briana Jacoba, for men of science who want better chemistry

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You’ll immediately get my take on why smarts can be so isolating.
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My opinion:
Therapy isn't nearly as fast as most people want and need it to be

Coaching isn't faster --than therapy or anything else-- if it doesn't work for you

**drugs + self-help only seem faster than therapy**

Self-care Coaching can only do so much

I Offer a Systematic, Efficient, Effective Alternative 30x Faster than Therapy or Coaching!

It's not therapy

It's not coaching, coaxing, or coping

not as sudden as psychedelics

How fast is this therapy alternative?

Lasting Relief in 3 Days, Not 6 Months

For self-diagnosed 'high-functioning,' highly technical guys, I have seen

results equivalent to
5.5 MONTHS of weekly sessions of any other kind

IN JUST 3 DAYS of

30x faster than therapy? Really?

Rapid Results
(in 3 days, not 24 weekly sessions like a therapy trajectory!)

**What I don't count when I say "it's faster than therapy":**

Here's the math for "30 times faster than therapy"

In Summary: I offer something better than coaching, faster than therapy.

Step 2

Step 3

My opinion: Therapy isn't nearly as fast as most people want and need it to be

Coaching isn't faster --than therapy or anything else-- if it doesn't work for you

drugs + self-help only *seem* faster than therapy

Self-care Coaching can only do so much

I Offer a Systematic, Efficient, Effective Alternative 30x Faster than Therapy or Coaching!

It's not therapy

It's not coaching, coaxing, or coping

not as sudden as psychedelics

How fast is this therapy alternative?

Lasting Relief in 3 Days, Not 6 Months

For self-diagnosed 'high-functioning,' highly technical guys, I have seen results equivalent to 5.5 MONTHS of weekly sessions of any other kindIN JUST 3 DAYS of

30x faster than therapy? Really?

Rapid Results (in 3 days, not 24 weekly sessions like a therapy trajectory!)

What I *don't* count when I say "it's faster than therapy":

Here's the math for "30 times faster than therapy"

In Summary: I offer something better than coaching, faster than therapy.

Step 2

Step 3

My opinion:
Therapy isn't nearly as fast as most people want and need it to be

**drugs + self-help only seem faster than therapy**

For self-diagnosed 'high-functioning,' highly technical guys, I have seen

results equivalent to
5.5 MONTHS of weekly sessions of any other kind

IN JUST 3 DAYS of

Rapid Results
(in 3 days, not 24 weekly sessions like a therapy trajectory!)

**What I don't count when I say "it's faster than therapy":**