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It’s Never the Right Time

Remember how, when her voice goes shrill, or her eyes get narrow, or her mouth goes pouty, you forget how to ‘just act natural?’ The verb there is ‘act.’

Good acting might just be part of what makes things worse.

Staying put can seem like the right thing to do (especially if your counterpart craves more eye-contact and attention than you do, even on a good day.) However, responding to someone’s upset with apparent calm obviously doesn’t have the desired effect every time.

Plus, it’s perfectly possible that this is more stressful for both of you than either of you realize. Just because you look calm, doesn’t mean you’re not alarmed. And admitting that to her might seem scary, but that’s what I want to make possible.

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An old rendition of the "Get Out of Jail Free" card from Monopoly.

How to Evade Difficult Conversations   

In a previous post, I shared “Deer-in-the-Headlights – A Poem About Overwhelm” and promised you, among other things, a way to escape futile conversations with a “Get out of Jail, Free” card. True to my word, at the bottom of today’s post, you’ll find an instantaneously downloadable “Get out of Jail, Free” card you can quote or print out to help you politely evade immobilizing exchanges. I think your past,

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After You “Lose Your Cool”

Sure, we all lose our cool at times, but don’t you just hate looking back on a situation and wondering: “WHAT HAPPENED?! I wasn’t gonna DO that anymore! I did that #$%* THING AGAIN!! I’m hopeless!” Maybe you said the thing that you know sets your partner off. Part of you flew off the handle in a rage. Part of you froze into place petrifiedly watching it all unfold like

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