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After You “Lose Your Cool”

Sure, we all lose our cool at times, but don’t you just hate looking back on a situation and wondering: “WHAT HAPPENED?! I wasn’t gonna DO that anymore! I did that #$%* THING AGAIN!! I’m hopeless!” Maybe you said the thing that you know sets your partner off. Part of you flew off the handle in a rage. Part of you froze into place petrifiedly watching it all unfold like

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The anxious emoticon sucking air in through its teeth. (To empathize with the reader's response to an emotional partner demanding conversation.)

Just before those darned headlights

The poem “Deer-in-the-Headlights” was an imagined internal experience of the scenario I describe below. Today, I want to look at the externals: what a video camera would record. Just so we can pretend we’re on the same page. Let’s say you’re in the kitchen, talking with your partner while the hood vent is on, so there’s some white noise. You aren’t leading or directing the conversation. You mostly listen and

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surprised fawn with eyes and ears fully directed toward the viewer: a deer in the headlights

Deer-in-the-Headlights, a short poem

I just did a relationship faux pas, but… I don’t know what I said or did.

It doesn’t look like it’s okay to ask, so I… can’t really think straight right now, let alone recall what just happened and make sense of it.

This is a bit jarring, actually, because I actually thought everything was okay, so I’m alarmed to find we’re not okay… or I’m not okay…

and apparently, I’m on my own here. Alone in my alarm…

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