Don't tell him what to do!
If you care about him,
you WON’T tell him to
visit this site,hire me,orread anything.
Let Him Discover My Site Himself
(You know he wouldn’t want it any other way.)
You KNOW that will backfire.
There are many good reasons for a man to hesitate, mistrust, and loathe
so-called “help.”
Ignoring his hesitation won’t make it go away.
You can’t just send him a link and sigh “I tried.”
Piquing his interest
takes care and integrity
I’m not saying “copy-paste this and you’re golden”
but just for clarity’s sake I’ve spelled out some sample messages you can adapt, below.
Don’t you think something like this would be a lot kinder,
wiser, and possibly more effective?
FIRST MESSAGE:
Hey, I read this ____ [link to article/post/tweet/insta]
and I think it helps me understand your pespective a bit better.
I wonder whether you like Briana’s take as much as I think you would…
SECOND MESSAGE:
Briana makes me feel so much closer to you —
like I finally understand what you’ve been saying all along
in regards to ________. [insert subject]
Like this [link to a different piece] ____ [adjective] ___ [noun].
But I can’t just keep sending you all her s t u f f.
I’m gonna trust you to subscribe if you’re actually interested.
LAST MESSAGE:
This [link to 3rd piece] is the last gem from Bree I’ll forward you.
Decide for yourself whether it’s any good.
She seems to me to understand you,
or at least help me see things from the point of view of
“men of science who want better chemistry from within”
(that’s who she advocates for.)
Long story short:
- Pick one/more social mediums and subscribe yourself, not him.
- Privately link to 3 items, embedding each in its own, meaningful, personal message.
- Step into the trust you want to have: make it clear you are NOT sending any more.
