This is the last post in a series on how frustrating it can be for cheerleader types wanting to ‘help’ a smart guy who doesn’t actually want help/feel helpable/believe that respectful, fun help is available. Even if you’re convinced that I’m a good (non-help-y word that better describes my services anyways) conversation partner for him, … How to Refer the Guy Who Knows Everything
If you have a smart guy in your life who won’t disclose much about feelings, or thinks he has that under control, thank you very much, it’s possible you’re too worried for his taste. But it’s equally possible you’re a total mind-reader, you know him better than he knows himself, and you are doing your … Labeling Smart Guys ‘Clueless’ Makes It So
X and Y are interchangeable in the following sentence, and could be substituted with get invited to parties, make friends, network my way into a job, feel confident in an interview/annual review, meet the One, get laid, be confident on a date, etc. “I can’t do X because I don’t have Y, and I don’t … Do You Hate Watching Smart Guys Outsmart Themselves?
Before you tell someone to “go talk to Bree” please know: I strongly prefer they have been receiving this eZine for a while, first. So don’t refer them to my conversation services. First, just forward a post! If it’s one for you (like this one) maybe add a few lines about what you learned and … 3 Bad Reasons to Refer Smart Guys (and a Few Okay Ones)
This is for people “trying to help” guys who don’t want ‘help.’ I think what confuses the frustrated ‘helper’ most, is some smart guys’ apparent disapproval or dismissiveness, lack of commitment, or sense of emotional independence. If hoping against hope for change in such behavior(s) is painful for you, and you can’t seem to get … 3 Ways Smart Guys Hurt Those Who Care Most
When we wish smart guys well, it’s easy to worry the good things won’t come to him… This post is about what to do with worrisome wishes, and why.
Self-confidence (confidence in what you are and are not) requires hard-won wisdom. Not knowledge. Knowledge is great, but only certain parts of us hold parts of our knowledge, e.g. the parts of you that were able to sit up in class and pay attention know alcohol makes humans stupid. Other parts, like the ones that … Knowledge Lowers Confidence
If your IQ sets you apart by making you waaaaay less interested in mundane topics than most folks, that can be tremendously isolating. Or if the intensity with which you engage outshines/outpaces/outdoes that of others, that can be isolating, too… But probably the most isolating side-effect of big brainz is your potential. Living with more … Odd Odds for the Odd Man Out
As a boy, you had your work cut out for you. You knew what to aspire to in becoming a man. Then suddenly you’re in a relationship with a woman, and she wants something completely different! Grade Expectations What society expects you to be as a man (the go-getter, the competent, the problem-solver… all this … Being a Man is Demanding
Ever danced with a partner who wanted to lead, even though that was your job? It doesn’t work. It’s like having a conversation with someone who thinks you need to be nagged, when you’re already hard enough on yourself, by yourself! Most guys shut down or seclude in this situation. And women don’t get it, … I Will Follow You…